A lot of women have trouble verbalizing what they truly want in the bedroom. Although women tend to like keeping a clean reputation and being respected, sometimes getting downright dirty is exactly what they need. Men don’t believe women to be as imaginative as them when it comes to sex and boy are they mistaken. Oftentimes women don’t want to tell a man what they want because they don’t want to give off the impression that they are not being pleased – that is where this article comes in.
Women are just as much sexual beings as men and our generation is finally accepting this fact. Today’s society encourages women to have a healthy sex drive, however that doesn’t mean all women are comfortable talking about their sex lives. These are ten of the things she wants you to do more in the bedroom. Every woman is different and every woman enjoys different sexual acts, but the following are ten things most women can agree to want more of.
As previously mentioned, some women get shy and uncomfortable talking about what they want more of, which they shouldn’t. If a man is sleeping with a woman he should make sure she is comfortable enough to tell him what she wants, and if she hasn’t you should bring it up to her!
10. Dirty Talk
Although this is a grey area for many, let’s get real – women love dirty talk and men rarely give it to them. The reason why women love dirty talk is simple; women are vocal and imaginative beings. Contrary to popular belief, women don’t want to hear sweet nothings whispered in their ears, women want you to get downright dirty. Start with the basics and gauge her responses. Ask her what she likes, ask her what her fantasies are and ask her what she wants you to do to her. In no time the two of you will be comfortable talking dirty with one another.
9. Switch It Up
Women tend to get bored easily in the bedroom and a lot of the time we wish our men switched it up a little more. Trying new positions creates a new experience between you and your partner and it is a great way of discovering each other’s needs. Women are afraid to bring this up to men because they don’t want their lover to think they aren’t satisfied. It’s not that we aren’t satisfied, it’s that we are craving something new. There are so many fun things your partner and you can do to switch it up when it comes to getting physical, you just need to take a risk and try something new. Chances are she will be into it.
8. Keep The Romance Alive
A lot of men get comfortable at a certain stage of the relationship and their chivalrous side tends to fade out. What men need to understand is that romantic gestures turn on women whether we admit to it or not. Every woman’s perception of romance is different. For some women romance is a romantic dinner followed by a horse and buggy ride through Central Park and for other women it is bringing their favorite white wine and chick flick to their place for a night in. Whatever your woman likes, do not forget it because you may not realize, but sometimes the pre-game is what really turns her on most, and trust me, men, the reward will be worth it.
7. Don’t Only Kiss Her On Her Mouth
Yes, we like to be kissed on our mouth, but we also love being kissed all over our body. For many women, being kissed on their necks is a huge turn on, however, all women have different places that they like to be kissed. Kissing should not be reserved solely for lips. Kiss her thighs, her neck and her stomach. Being kissed anywhere during sex is perceived as a sign of care and women like to know that the person they are sleeping with is making sure she is comfortable.
6. Tell Her What You Like
If a woman is sleeping with you, chances are she wants to please you as much as possible. Women wish men vocalized what they liked during sex so they can focus and do it more. Although most of the time a woman can tell what drives her man crazy, it is nice to get some reassurance from your partner. Women like to know that what they are doing is good, not only in sex but also in life. They want the acknowledgment that they are doing the job right and as a man you should always make her feel that she is. Telling her what you want is not something you should be afraid to do because it is something she wants you to do!
5. Rough Her Up
I know men are brought up with the morals and values that hitting a woman is bad, which it is. However, when you are having sex with someone, those rules kind of go out the window. A lot of women get really turned on by being roughed up a little, so men, don’t be afraid, chances are she has been dying for you to pull her hair. Women, whether they admit it or not, are turned on when a man takes control of her. Many women enjoy being put in their place behind closed doors, especially in the bedroom.
4. More Foreplay
Women love foreplay for numerous reasons. First, for a woman, foreplay is a lot of fun. We love teasing our men and almost making them beg to be inside us. What a lot of men don’t realize also is that it is easier to get a girl to climax during foreplay. Men tend to want to fast-forward the previews and get straight to the featured film, however for many the previews are the best part. Foreplay is something that should be done regardless of the amount of time you have been dating someone. I mean a quickie is always fun, but foreplay should never be neglected.
Women love being in control of every situation they are in, which is why they love being able to dominate their sexual partner. There is something extremely empowering for a women to be able to get a man begging for them, literally. However, domination goes both ways. Since women tend to always be in control, it is nice to sometimes have zero control. It takes a lot for a women to let herself be fully dominated, but if you make her feel comfortable enough, chances are it could be what was missing in your love life all along!
There is something so hot about having unconventional sex with your partner. Relationships tend to get repetitive and something that your girl needs is a little spontaneity. Come up behind her in the kitchen while she is cooking or in the laundry room when she is folding and lay it on her. It is important for any relationship to keep the sex fun and alive, couples often get into ruts and this is a great way of getting out of one. If you guys are really adventurous, try having sex in a public place, the thrill and excitement that you can get caught at any minute is sure to spice things up for the two of you.
1. Return The Favor
Let’s be real, women spend half of their relationship in between your legs and most guys don’t realize that we want you to return the favor. Oral sex is great for both men and women, but often times women get nervous asking for it. Men rarely have to ask for it, women just automatically go there, but for a lot of men, they don’t think of instantly doing the same. Men don’t realize that often times if they don’t go down on you the woman thinks it is something wrong with them. So men, just return the favor, trust me you will only be rewarded in the end.
Katina Goulakos: Citing Sources: [http://www.therichest.com/expensive-lifestyle/lifestyle/10-things-she-wants-you-to-do-more-often-in-bed/]: [May 19, 2016]